A guy behaving distant all of a sudden in a relationship is a very common problem. The is some assurance in the fact that it is not just you that is experiencing this! But what on earth do you do when he acts like this?
One of the joys of life is that it is full of ups and downs. It is very rarely ever boring! It is exactly the same when it comes to relationships. One minute it is all butterfly's and roses, then next minute you feel like he is about to disappear off the face of the earth!.
It takes a smart women to figure out how to deal with behavior like this, the answer lies in figuring out what is causing him to be distant.
One of the joys of life is that it is full of ups and downs. It is very rarely ever boring! It is exactly the same when it comes to relationships. One minute it is all butterfly's and roses, then next minute you feel like he is about to disappear off the face of the earth!.
It takes a smart women to figure out how to deal with behavior like this, the answer lies in figuring out what is causing him to be distant.
Is He Satisfied With The Relationship?
It's all very well being concerned about him being distant. But you have to realize that it takes two people to tango in a relationship.
Fortunately for you, it is easier for you to fix what you may be doing wrong first, than to try and get him to change his behavior.
It is a tough question to ask, but do you think he is getting what he wants out of the relationship? Have you considered that he may not be.
You may be very satisfied but unfortunately he may not.
Everybody has different needs and desires in order to be happy and satisfied, and just assuming because you love each other, that your needs and desires are the same can be a fatal mistake.
Ask him what he wants out of his relationship with you. It may be something like a small shift in how you behave. Or it maybe something you are not prepared to give, which could signal the end of the relationship.
It's all very well being concerned about him being distant. But you have to realize that it takes two people to tango in a relationship.
Fortunately for you, it is easier for you to fix what you may be doing wrong first, than to try and get him to change his behavior.
It is a tough question to ask, but do you think he is getting what he wants out of the relationship? Have you considered that he may not be.
You may be very satisfied but unfortunately he may not.
Everybody has different needs and desires in order to be happy and satisfied, and just assuming because you love each other, that your needs and desires are the same can be a fatal mistake.
Ask him what he wants out of his relationship with you. It may be something like a small shift in how you behave. Or it maybe something you are not prepared to give, which could signal the end of the relationship.
Communicate Without Being Needy:
The short answer for dealing with a distant man is to communicate with him. BUT it is very important that this is done correctly!
Nagging him as to why he is acting this way will only serve to push him even further away. Trying to trick or pressure him into changing his behavior will also see him run a mile! And when a Guy Pulls Away it can be incredibly frustrating.
Men are hopeless at communication, but he will be trying to tell you what is wrong in his own unique way. This is where you really have to pay attention and try see what he is telling you.
I assure you that is you talk less and listen more, you will start to hear your man in a whole new light. He may not be directly communicating his problems to you, but you will easily be able to pick up what is causing his problems in his day to day speech.
Once you have an idea, openly ask him about it, but tell him that you only want to help. Assure him that there is no pressure and you will back off if he wants. But make it known to him that you want to stand right by his side. From that point he will most likely open right up to you about what is wrong.
The short answer for dealing with a distant man is to communicate with him. BUT it is very important that this is done correctly!
Nagging him as to why he is acting this way will only serve to push him even further away. Trying to trick or pressure him into changing his behavior will also see him run a mile! And when a Guy Pulls Away it can be incredibly frustrating.
Men are hopeless at communication, but he will be trying to tell you what is wrong in his own unique way. This is where you really have to pay attention and try see what he is telling you.
I assure you that is you talk less and listen more, you will start to hear your man in a whole new light. He may not be directly communicating his problems to you, but you will easily be able to pick up what is causing his problems in his day to day speech.
Once you have an idea, openly ask him about it, but tell him that you only want to help. Assure him that there is no pressure and you will back off if he wants. But make it known to him that you want to stand right by his side. From that point he will most likely open right up to you about what is wrong.